So...
My husband came to visit me this weekend. I had not seen him since 1/3 and it was not such a great visit lat time he was here. We drove down from NY with the dogs, I drove most of the way, the weather was crappy and we got into some wicked arguments, I think its this whole travelling thing, starting to wear on both of us.
So I was all anxious all last week about him coming... Would he notice that I lost weight (#1 anxiety point for me, although he has NEVER complained about my weight!), would there be enough stuff to do, enough food, is the house clean enough, is there stuff to talk about and will it not lead into an argument (we're both VERY argumentive and strong willed!), will we be discussing the whole weekend a possible move and if so where, is he going to think that the dogs are even more out of control than they were before we left NY and is that a reflection of me??? AAAAAAHHHHHH!!!
So the big day arrived, got my hair done, nails done, put on a cute outfit and met him at the airport feeling all first date like. We both could not stop smiling when we saw each other and I was upset that I didn't think to make a sign like a chauffeur (I could have totally played that up!). When we got to the house, the dogs were estatic to see him, jumping around, screaming (my dogs scream when they're excited). After I took off my sweater, he said "wow, babe, you look great". So that TOTALLY took care of anxiety point #1!. We didn't do much this weekend, went downtown, watched the super bowl and hung around the house. On his last day here, it was at that point that I realized that I TOTALLY missed him and although I promised myself that I would not break into tears, yes, I had a meltdown! It's strange, not like I didn't miss him before, but it seems like I realized that I missed him once he was here, is that strange? I know the distance has done us some good, allowed us to not focus on each other for a bit, gave us time to work some things out with God, become a bit less dependent on each other and more dependent on Him and done WONDERS for our conversations but I'm wondering, is it time to get home???
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Is it time to go home? That’s a tricky question. I’d say if you’re asking it then you already know the answer and you just need to reconcile the rest of your life around going home or staying…..see what I mean?
Of course you miss your husband….is it weird you miss him more when he’s around? I think not I think it just makes it more piercing when he’s around. Having him around makes it harder to be alone…Just makes you REALIZE how much you miss him while you are going about your day to day.
I’m going to say put everything aside, finances, job etc and ask your self is this still working for my marriage. Yes that right you heard me but the job and finances aside (I know you NEVER thought you’d hear that from me) and make a decision based on what is best for you and Cory’s marriage. Once you decide that then and only then add in the other factors and build a plan based on what’s best for the marriage.
The question is… is this STILL good for my marriage? Once you answer that then you will get the answer as to whether it’s time to go home.
Love ya
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Ps… first Pray then think then PRAY again then Plan then PRAY again….
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